There are a lot of things I wish I knew when I was a younger, but I can’t tell my younger self that so I’m going to write a blog post about it, hoping that you, my readers, will get something from it.
1. Don’t rush into love
I was so naive when it came to love that I thought the first guy I’m going to fall in love with was going to be THE one. He wasn’t. And after a series of toxic and one-sided relationships, I learned that there’s more to life than having a boyfriend or girlfriend and if I could return back time, I would love to spend most of my teenage years living life to the fullest than nursing a broken heart.
Don’t worry, the right person and love will happen at the right time.
2. What others think of you is none of your business
Growing up on the Internet, I was prone to criticism. People would say nasty things and the insults would range from being not pretty enough to having no originality. And even if none of it were true, as a teenager, I still wanted to belong. So I tried my best to meet other people’s expectations, but in the end, they still have something bad to say about me.
Eventually, I got tired of trying. I had to learn the hard way that I can’t control and change what people think about me. So I might as well focus on myself and if I knew this sooner, my life could’ve been happier.
3. Choosing my battles wisely
Haters and naysayers don’t choose when to attack, they just do.
Looking back, I wish I knew when to ignore and when to respond to defend myself (or people in my life that they are insulting). In relation to #2, I wish I knew beforehand that not all battles are worth the fight and effort.
4. Get fit.
I was never a healthy eater to begin with, but I was skinny as a teenager. I could munch on everything — chocolates, ice cream, cheeseburger — without facing any consequences. But nobody told me that our body’s metabolism gets slower as we get older and all of that late-night runs at McDonald will affect my body. Those accumulated flabs in our body are much harder to get rid of. :( Now I find myself wishing that I didn’t take all those P.E. classes for granted.
5. Learning how to invest and other things that could help me become a millionaire by 30.
Because who doesn’t want to be a millionaire and not feel the financial struggle of not being able to afford nice things and travels?
Kidding aside, I really do wish I listened to my elders regarding financial matters. I also wish schools included topics such as “How to Invest” or “File my Taxes” in their curriculum because as a freelancer, I often find myself struggling to determine the next step on filing taxes. If these topics were only taught in school ten years ago, then I wouldn’t feel so completely lost and broke today.
6. Figure what you like and start exploring towards that direction
It’s okay if you want to change paths later. If there’s something I really wish I could’ve done back in high school is that I should've picked a course that I really wanted to pursue. Don’t get me wrong, I had fun in my chosen course, but if I were being true to myself, I could’ve picked something else.
This quote from Jim Carrey’s graduation speech is one of my favorites:
"You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”